Angelos Roy One Week Update 

How I’m doing: 

A week in and I’m doing much better all around than I had expected. I braced myself for a super hard recovery and I think that helped my situation. When I had Romy I had expectations of bouncing back and being ready to get back to normal life by now and was basically slapped in the face. 

I think I had an unusually difficult vaginal recovery with Romy and this has actually been easier on me both physically and mentally. Before the idea of stitches freaked me out and things like using the bathroom and sitting normally were stressful. There is a certain relief this time that my incision is on my stomach. My pregnancy was so tough on me that at this point there is a certain amount of relief that it’s all over. 

While I am not my best self with little sleep, I feel like this time I am more aware of how quickly time will pass so my patience is better. The idea that this may be my last newborn makes me hold on a little tighter to these moments. 

How He’s Doing:


This little guy is the polar opposite of Romy when she was first born. Being that he was born at 36.5 weeks he is considered Late Pre Term. This makes it hard for him to nurse long enough to get all the milk he needs, as he becomes exhausted pretty quickly. This means waking him every 2 hours to nurse for 10 minutes, giving him 1 oz of breastmilk from a bottle, then pumping. While it is exhausting, it is so much better than Romys constant nursing. And crying. I feel like he is constantly sleeping. 

How She’s Doing:


I am so proud of what a good big sister Romy has been. She calls him Baby Boy, and loves to kiss and hug him. She has been ultra sensitive lately, on the verge of tears for things that normally wouldn’t upset her, but I am so relieved she loves him.  I know she will have an adjustment period, and I’m looking forward to recovering and having some one on one time with her. 

Angelos Birth Story

Four days ago, January 28th, we welcomed baby Angleos to our family.  As I sit here in peace a few hours away from going home with our newest edition, I have a moment to reflect on these past few days before being thrown into the chaos of two under two as soon as I open that door.  I wanted to take a moment to at least jot something down in regards to Angelos’ birth story, while its still fresh.

At my last doctors appoint (36 weeks) my doctor had made mention of the fact that a c section might be a good option for me, and for me to think about it and let her know the following week. ( You can read more about why in my 36 week update).  After about a day, Bobby and I had pretty much decided that the C-Section was the route we were going to take and I was constantly writing down questions related to c-sections in my phone for my following appointment. As long as none of the answers didn’t COMPLETELY freak me out, we would schedule a c-section for around 39 Weeks. The next few days I was super nervous that I would go into labor before my next appointment, and not have all of my questions answered before making my decision.

Well as my luck would have it on Saturday at 2:20 AM, half way through my 36th week I woke up to my water breaking. I jumped out of bed, ran to call my doctor and woke Bobby up. There really is no going back once your water breaks, and I was aware of that fact.  I talked to my doctor and told her that we had decided on a c-section but I was scared and still had questions.  She told me I had a little bit of time to make up my mind and to let her know once I was admitted what I wanted to do.

We arrived at 3:00 AM to Mission Hospital where I was 3 cm dilated and my contractions had begun to kick in.  (Exactly like Romy’s delivery). I let them know that I would be having a c-section, and they were able to once again give me medication to stop my contractions.  I decided to go with the c-section simply because I knew the trauma of having an emergency one might be a little too much for me, and I wanted to start my time with Angelos in the most calm environment as possible.  I was supposed to go straight into the operating room, but there were two emergencies that got pushed ahead of me. Since I was able to stop contractions and was comfortable, I was moved to the back of the line.

At 8:30 AM I made my way to the O.R. I was surprisingly more calm than I expected. Given that our situation wasn’t rushed or urgent, I felt like everyone really took the time to explain everything that was about to happen and make me feel comfortable. Bobby had to step out side while they prepped me and gave me my spinal. The spinal was pretty crazy. I didn’t realize it was just an injection and not something that stayed in your back like an IV or epidural.  I hunched over, just like the epidural and leaned on my doctor while the anesthesiologist did the injection.  Within seconds your toes start getting warm and the sensation makes its way up your body.  Literally in five minutes you are completely numb. I was so afraid of feeling anything, even just the pressure of them cutting into me made me want to vomit, but she had begun the surgery and I didn’t even know it.  I couldn’t feel a thing. As the baby is about to come out there was a strange sensation of a ton of weight pushing down on your chest, I felt like I could not breath.  Thankfully they warned me about that so I didn’t panic but it was definitely the worst part for me.

At 8:59 AM about five minutes into the surgery beginning Angelos was held up into the air for me to see.  He cried the softest cry and was taken for a quick evaluation with daddy to be sure everything looked good.  I was so anxious to have him in my arms and really get a good look at him.  Five or ten minutes later he was brought over to do skin to skin while they finished closing everything up.  My first thoughts as I saw him were ‘Oh my god, he’s so tiny!’ and ‘He looks like Romy’. My heart automatically grew in that moment, and I knew the love for him was as great as the love I have for Romy. It was such a crazy thing.

The next 24 hours was calm and smooth. All this little guy wants to do is sleep, a far cry from when Romy  was first born. The recovery has had its moments, but not nearly as bad as I had thought it up to be in my mind.  But we can save all that fun stuff for another post.

FYI- My doctor informed me that I would have ended up in an emergency c-section, because when she pulled him out he was completely tangled in the cord. It wrapped around his neck and arms and body. I felt a lot better about my decision when I heard that.

 

Angelos Nursery

Angelos Nursery

 

When I first found out I was having a boy, one of my first thoughts was how do I decorate a boys nursery?  My entire house is white and floral, how could I even work something boyish into that? I pulled from what I normally use (flowers) and tried thinking of a masculine way to do that.  Succulents and plants came to mind and I kind of just went from there- going with a desert, boho, plant theme.
So given that I have had to stay in bed for the majority of this pregnancy, and Bobby has been busy working then coming straight home to take care of me and Romy, not all of these things are actually hanging on the walls or in place, but I do have all these items purchased and sitting on the floor in the nursery.  That counts for something right? You might have seen the photo on instagram of the one part of the room that is put together.  Hoping to finish this coming week.

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Newborn Essentials

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As the arrival of Angelos has been creeping up on us, I made a short list of the necessary things I needed to get.  These were the bottom of the barrel essentials, as in, if I went into labor tomorrow these things at the very least needed to be at home when we returned. These are all items I either depended on with Romy or wished I would have had. As fun as it is to get every last baby gadget before the baby arrives, the truth of the matter is, newborns don’t need much so if you are looking for a short list of essentials these are what I recommend. (Below are my descriptions of items but above are links to wear you can actually buy these items.
A Place to Sleep: We were sleep failures with Romy. I am pretty much starting fresh with the sleep baby gear this time, trying to keep in my things that did and mostly didn’t work with Romy.  This is really where we spent most of our money. Ideally he would be an easy sleeper and I could just put him on his back, swaddled, flat, in his crib. HA! We didn’t want to buy another crib since we are hoping Romy will make the transition out of hers soon, and I didn’t want to invest in a super pricy bassinet that we could only use for a few months.  We had never bought a travel crib for Romy, so we figured we might as well go that route so that we will have one for overnights away with both kids. Here’s what we decided on:
The Guava Family Lotus Travel Crib: We bought the bassinet attachment, which is where (fingers crossed he will sleep for the first few months).  We chose this particular one because it’s super light (around 14 lbs), packs up super small (you can carry it as a backpack), and it has a cool little side door that might come in handy (Reminds me of Lola’s kennel, lol).
DockAtot: Romy couldn’t be in a wide open space without screaming, so in the event that this baby needs to feel snuggled we also bough the DockAtot. This can go in the bed with us (hoping to avoid), and easy to move all around the house.
Rock N Play: This was the only thing Romy would sleep in.  I am really hoping to avoid it, because not only are they snuggled, the are inclined, and I felt like it was one more thing to have to transition her out of when she got too big.  But I still bought one, because when you need sleep you need sleep and this is thing was a lifesaver. We can also just keep it as a place to set her downstairs.
Diapers and Wipes: Obviously. Romy has super sensitive skin and would get a rash with anything except Water Wipes.  They are literally just wipes, water and a tiny bit of grapefruit extract. A product you can feel safe using. As for diapers, as much as I love how cute Honest ones are Pampers have that yellow line that tells you when they pee, they are soft, and way more affordable.
Bottles and Pacifiers: Its a total first time parent move to go out and decide which bottle you will use and buy the entire kit. Seriously, buy one or two of a few different kinds. Romy wouldn’t really take any of them, but there was one brand she would sometimes take.  This go around I have a few Tommee Tippee left from Romy, one Doctor Browns, and I picked up one of these Comotomo Silicone Bottles.  They look super cool.  Hopefully Angelos thinks so too.  Same goes with Pacifiers.  I have soothies, nuks, and a handful of other ones Romy never used and I ordered these cool swedish ones to try this time. The Natursutten’s look awesome because they are totally eco friendly, bpa free, I don’t think they are even made out of actual plastic. Hoping he likes these.
Nursing: Nipple cream from word one is my plan of attack this time.  Hoping to avoid bleeding nipples, but when they did bleed last time, my nipple shield became my best friend.
Swaddles and burp cloths: Its all about the super soft bamboo swaddles.  Last time I used Aden and Anais, but this time Little Unicorns prints got me.  So far from what I have felt they are amazing. I am sticking with the Aden and Anais burp cloths this go around because once you are done with the burping stage they make the best bibs. They literally wrap all the way around them and have saved so many of Romy’s clothes.
Baby Carrier: This was one of the only items I really got a lot of use out of with Romy. Last time I had three different ones for different stages, that were gifts or hand me downs.  This time I invested in one that does it all. The Lilliebaby was great reviews and I love that it doesn’t need a newborn insert, which was super sweaty the last time.
Clothing: As fun as getting a ton of cute outfits is, I knew all I really need to survive the beginning were these two items. A sleeper gown.  In the middle of the night when having to change a million diapers the last thing you want to deal with is buttons.  Romy slept in her gowns every night, and I was happy to find a more gender neutral one. Kimono style t-shirts were also my life saver.  When they are so tiny and floppy it was a little intimidating having to pull shirts over their necks.  I always felt like I was going to break Romy. The kimono snaps make it so much easier for baby and mommy.

36 Week Update

How I’m doing:

 It’s one step forward, two steps back this pregnancy. After an eventful week things took a turn and it’s back to bed. On Thursday I began bleeding, much more than I have in the past.The bleeding continued through out the day and an ultrasound was performed to be sure it wasn’t effecting me or the baby. After it finally subsided I was sent home on complete bedrest. 

At today’s appointment my doctor basically told me that I should be considering a c section, because she isn’t sure how my placenta will handle a vaginal delivery. I have a small tear (that I have had since 6 weeks, and has caused the majority of my issues this pregnancy.) If it were to get worse or detach during delivery I would be sent directly into an emergency c section. So there is a possibility I would be in labor for hours just to have a c section. 

With words being thrown around like ‘bleeding out’ and ‘life threatening’, I am definitely leaning toward a c section, even though I have always been terrified to have one. My doctor did say it was 100% my decision and she would be comfortable doing it either way I wanted. I am thankful I am not being pressured one way or the other, but the thought of a super traumatic delivery is pushing me to the way of the c section. I’m feeling like a super controlled environment will make me feel the most comfortable.

If you have had a c section I’d love to hear about your experience. 

How He’s Doing:

Thankfully all of this bleeding has not negatively effected the baby. In the mist of everything going on at the hospital his vitals were always perfect, which is all I can ask for. He’s measuring around 5 lbs 11 ounces, but I don’t know how much I really trust ultrasounds for weight. 

How She’s Doing:


Romy’ still running the show around here as usual. We will see how that works out once baby arrives! She seems happy to have her daddy spending so much time with her. Unfortunately she developed an ear infection while we were gone at the hospital so we are all a little under the weather around here. Speaking of weather the rain California has been getting right now is pretty insane. I guess it’s the perfect weather for staying in bed all day!

Girl Night In

When asked by friends and family about whether or not I wanted a sprinkle for this baby my first thought was no. It seemed silly for me to expect gifts from people when I just had a huge shower two years ago and got more than I could have asked for. As it became apparent that bed rest was going to be the overall theme of this pregnancy it became even less feasible in my mind.

After months in bed or on some sort of modified bedrest two of my girl friends decided to plan a girls night in at my house with a handful of my close friends. Everyone came in comfy clothes, we watched a movie, ate junk food, had martinis and margaritas (them not me) and hung out. It was just what I needed- a fun girls night, which hasn’t happened in FOREVER and a nice way to celebrate the coming arrival of my baby boy. 

I’m so blessed to have such great friends in my life and so many people to share life’s greatest moments with.